Let MotherHOOD Consume You ✨

Somewhere along the way, society decided that being “consumed by motherhood” was a warning label.

Don’t let motherhood consume you.

Don’t lose yourself.

Make sure you still have an identity.

And lately, I’ve been sitting with that phrase and thinking… why is that automatically a bad thing?

Because if I’m being honest, I’ve been fully immersed in motherhood lately and it’s been freeing.

Not in a losing-myself way.

Not in a disappearing-into-only-being-a-mom way.

But in a this is the identity I chose, the life I prayed for, and the season I’m in kind of way.

I’m not losing myself in motherhood.

I’m allowing myself to be present in it.

There’s a difference.

This version of motherhood, the constant needs, the questions, the closeness, the being-needed-24/7 — isn’t forever. One day, our kids won’t need us like this. One day, they won’t want to be under us, around us, calling our name from the next room. One day, they’ll build lives that don’t revolve around us in the same way.

And when you really think about it… the time we have to fully immerse ourselves in this part of motherhood is actually pretty short.

So why are we rushing ourselves through it?

Why are we made to feel like leaning in too much is unhealthy?

Why is presence mistaken for loss?

For me, allowing motherhood to “consume” me has looked like releasing the guilt around enjoying this season. It’s letting myself soak up the moments instead of constantly worrying about what’s next. It’s reminding myself that this is where I want to be even on the hard days.

Now, that doesn’t mean I don’t need space for myself.

It just means my peace may look different right now.

Sometimes peace is once the kids are finally down, I watch a quiet hour with of TV and drink a glass of wine.

Sometimes it’s stepping outside during nap time and just breathing.

Sometimes it’s sitting in the silence after the house finally settles.

Little moments.

Intentional pauses.

Small ways of choosing myself within motherhood, not outside of it.

And to the moms who feel like they don’t get breaks. To the moms with limited support.

To the moms who are in survival mode and wondering when they’ll feel like themselves again

I want you to know you’re not alone and this WILL PASS!

This season is not forever.

These needs won’t always be this intense. And it’s okay if your “me time” looks like five quiet minutes instead of a full hour.

Find the light where you can.

Find the love where it shows up.

Create peace in the small moments that are available to you.

Being consumed by motherhood doesn’t mean you disappear.

Sometimes it means you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.

And I don’t know about you, but I’m nowhere near ready for the day my kids don’t need me like this anymore.

So for now, I’m leaning in. I’m allowing myself to be consumed by this season, this love, this identity, without shame.

Because motherhood isn’t taking anything from me.

It’s giving me something I’ll never get back once it passes.

And that feels like something worth embracing!

With You, Tsedaye